A few weeks ago, I saw a survey looking for thoughts on changing your name when you married. I completed it, and my answers were excerpted in the New York Times last week. I wrote a lot more than was published. I wrote a whole thing about how when we decided to get married, it…
Back in October, I read a thoughtful piece on fat shaming in the New York Times. It was too heartbreaking to simply include it in a weekly roundup: when I read it, I was so affected. A lot of people have mixed feelings about their weight and their bodies. I’ve written about my own; I’ve…
Happy New Year Everyone! I love New Year’s. I love the challenge of moving forward, of setting new goals for yourself, of the possibility of reinvention and the promise of continual improvement. It’s also at New Year’s that I reflect, and think about where I was last New Year’s Eve, or the one before, or…
As a small child, I was quiet and thoughtful, impressionable. I remember seeing images of this woman on TV, and my parents laughing (at what I know recognize as her playfulness). I thought she was wonderful, with her dresses and her voice. I loved all the fluff and the colour pink and the feathers, the…
And I’m going to miss them. 🙁 That’s all.
As a girl, growing up with an old stack of my mother’s Vanity Fair magazines, I was a little bit fascinated by Jackie Kennedy. I thought she was beautiful. Those Vanity Fairs were also my first introduction to fame, as a concept. It took me months to understand why we’d want to read stories about…
A few months ago, a friend and I were walking in the park. In an (uncharacteristic) display of vulnerability, I told her: “Sometimes I think I’m really cool to be married to, but sometimes, I am really uncool.” As I said it, a couple of older women – probably in their 80s – walked past,…
As mentioned, we are watching our budget in preparation for a project. A home renovation project. Earlier this year, we bought a place that needs work. A lot of work. A huge, expensive amount of work. We have put a lot of work (read: cash, read: every cent we have plus some) into it already,…
Sometimes, I find myself thinking crazy thoughts, like: “Maybe I’m overreacting. Maybe there’s not as much gender discrimination as I think there is.” I’ll think: “Do I need to be as vigilant about feminism as I am?” I question it, you know. I don’t want to be this vigilant. I don’t want to be a…
It’s none of my business, it’s really none of my business… But whenever I get wind of other people’s financial problems, I get anxious. Say someone without retirement savings goes on an all-inclusive Cuban vacation: I’ll hear about it, my chest tightens, my heart speeds up, and I need to literally bite my lip until…
